How To Incorporate Your Chakras in a Conscious Relationship

Jeff Oxford

There are seven chakras located in our subtle energy bodies, and while they are centers of spiritual energy, they also play into our physical and mental well being. The chakras are an excellent place to start when beginning on any spiritual path. They are simple yet provide profound experiences through study and practice. I recently discovered a ‘new to me’ way to work with the chakras by letting them guide you into a conscious relationship.

Just like the chakras can be out of balance, so can your relationship. There can be areas of our relationship that are overactivated or areas that need more attention. You can use the chakras as a way to navigate and create a healthy and conscious relationship with a partner or even how to nourish a fulfilling relationship with yourself. Whether you are unfamiliar or seasoned with the chakras, below is a briefing to introduce or re-acquaint yourself. Each of your chakras has a color and because you can’t see them, a location to focus your attention on in your mind’s eye. 


The Seven Chakras

Root Chakra – Red – At the base of your spine – rules your connection to the earth as well as your sense of security and basic survival needs

Sacral Chakra – Orange – Located near the sacrum, about halfway between the pubis and navel – creativity, pleasure, desire, sexuality,

Solar Plexus Chakra – Yellow – At the navel – personal power, will and emotions like anger and joy

Heart Chakra – Green – At the center of your being – compassion, unconditional love, empathy

Throat Chakra – Blue – Base of the neck – speaking your truth, verbalizing emotions

Third Eye Chakra – Indigo – The space between your eyebrows – inner vision, wisdom, intuition

Crown Chakra – Violet – Just above the crown of the head – connection to Source energy and higher wisdom

The Chakras In Conscious Relationship

You can take a holistic approach to maintain the health of your relationships and apply chakra philosophy. Sometimes a fresh perspective on how to handle something that is so ingrained to our everyday lives, like our relationships, can provide a breath of fresh air. Treat your relationships as its own sacred entity. Instead of looking for a partner to ‘complete us’, show up whole. Become a team that moves toward growth. Respect each other’s uniqueness and become curious rather than judgmental when conflict arises. 


Dr. Alberto Volloldo offers a few questions that I highly encourage you to contemplate….

At the first chakra: How are you going to help each other with your survival needs, your basic identity needs, and are you going to commit to each other in meeting your most fundamental needs? This is where you will learn if you have the foundation to keep building. Do you feel safe? Can you disclose yourself, who you really are, and not who you want others to see you as? Can you trust this person to not hurt you if you show your soft underbelly? This is what it’s all about, and you have to be willing to reveal yourself, and to talk about it – which can be scary and painful.

At the second chakra: How are you going to embrace the Other for who he/she is – and all the gifts, blessings and curses? Are you willing to receive them and embrace them and commit to help the Other discover the fullness of their being?

At the third chakra: How can you acknowledge, respect and contribute to each other’s power and expression in the world without feeling threatened by it?

At the fourth chakra, the heart: How can you dedicate yourselves to practicing unconditional love – and by that I mean love that is not conditioned by our upbringing, by mommy and daddy. Unconditioned love is based on honoring the Other.

At the fifth chakra: How can you respect each other’s voice? Can you make a commitment to hear the Other deeply, to be a good listener, to be a careful witness to your partner and invite their voice to be developed to its fullest, versus a hidden whisper for fear of offending.

At the sixth chakra: How can you support each other’s vision of your journey in the world?

At the seventh chakra: How can you have a joint spiritual practice?